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Saturday, September 5, 2015

The Perfect Gentleman: Does Love Fluctuate?

Love, the golden word that binds all and heals all.
Love, just a bit of it would make the world a better
Love, that sweet poison which makes us do crazy
meaningless things.
Ever seen a full grown man breakdown in public and
shed oceans of tears, uncontrollably, without shame,
bereft of remorse.
Have you ever lost the desire to eat, sleep, or even
keep living over the loss (breakup) of a loved one?
Love, something so special, so divine, so sanguine,
damn near perfect. God’s greatest gift to man (more
so evident in the sacrifice of his only son).
In the past, I used to have a witty and somewhat
realistic definition of love; A four letter word that
guys use to get into girls’ pants.
I used to resist and fight love, and even the urge to
fall in love.
I was so certain of this naive assumption that I
brandished it about with careless abandon to
whomever cared to pay attention, until nature had its
way with me.
I fell in love with a beautiful and extremely appealing
girl and we didn’t make love until 8 months after we
started dating (Lol, i wasn’t slow nor impotent).
I was deeply in love and I was willing to wait till she
was ready emotionally, physically and
Obviously this experience changed my rebellious
view on love, it killed the fight in me and sent me
falling, crashing in love, never to rise again.
Why then should something this beautiful, pure, and
selfless fluctuate? Maybe it is subject to the ever
constant ‘change’ or the forever present ‘law of
Does love really fluctuate? I think it does, for me at
least, and every other man I know. Anyone who has
ever been in a love steeped relationship (the
exemption of friends with benefits) must and will
have experienced the highs and lows of love.
There are periods when the feeling of love is so
intense, so thick, so strong, that we (guys) would see
an extremely endowed woman with a buttocks the
size of Nicki Minaj’s and you won’t even give her a
second look.
That is love at its best, highest, purest peak. There
are times when it (love) is so low you would wonder
“what the heck am I doing with her”.
At that point, all her previously benign flaws will be
magnified in your eyes.
Love certainly has different levels of intensity and it
would only be hypocritical and unrealistic of us to
deny this, consequently and unconsciously telling the
young ones that it is forever a blissful phenomenon,
nah, not possible.
There is fantasy love and true love. Fantasy love
might not fluctuate, might not waiver, might even
never bicker, but trust me, it is fickle deep down and
can’t last, never.
True love on the other hand is sometimes sweet,
sometimes sad, sometimes fraught with ups and
downs, but at the end of the day, you know you have
something real, worth fighting for.
Love tends to fluctuate over weeks, months, and
years. Basically, over time. Even in one day or an
hour, love can and does fluctuate.
Tell me you’ve never been with your partner for
about a couple of hours and not felt bored and
indifferent at some point, hell, even tired of them.
You’re nodding, yeah, that’s it, that’s the fluctuation.
The fluctuation does not mean that love disappears
from the relationship. It is natural for love to
fluctuate from time to time in human relationships,
whether we want it or not, like it or not.
Some say if love fluctuates, it never was love,
 but I say , if love doesn’t fluctuate, doesn’t waiver,
 how do you test its limit? its depth? its validity? How
do you? My friends, the moment you realize that love
fluctuates in relationships, the better equipped you
will be, relationship-wise.

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